What should / can i do?
Once you understand the reality you live in, two questions may hit you:
What should i do?
What can i do?
They are slightly different questions.
“What should i do?” relates to your moral compass. The answer will deal with who you fundamentally are.
“What can i do?” relates to your capabilities, what you can physically and mentally do. You may also think about what you are allowed to do.
Many of the folks in the Peoplelyzer network asked themselves these questions. These questions keep some of them up at night. Many of us went through this thinking process, and we are here to support you and provide you with ideas to answer these questions.
How big is the risk?
If you understand what is happening, you should logically perceive a risk. There is a risk that you end up in a situation where you have no more choices. There is also a risk that you will be poisoned or significantly mentally or physically impacted by forced medical procedures, cloud seeding (chemical trails), and all other technologies used to either control or kill more or less quickly.
How big of a risk these things are for you and your family?
The actions you will take depend on how you perceive the risk. Imagine you are in front of a small bulldog. You may perceive no risk at all. Imagine you are in front of a large Doberman. You may perceive a high risk. Situation number 1: you do not care about the small bulldog. Situation number 2: you take action.
It's the same thinking process here. What risk do you perceive, and how much of a threat to you is this risk?
Feel free to write it down on paper and discuss it with your loved ones.
Risk management 101
If you perceive the current situation as risky (to some extent, it is), then you should go back to the basics of risk management.
Here are the three options you can adopt versus any risk:
Accept the risk (you will do nothing)
Avoid the risk (you will take action to get rid of this risk)
Mitigate the risk (you will take action to reduce the likelihood and/or the impact of this risk).
Imagine you cross a main road in Ha Noi (Vietnam). There are dozens of motorcycles passing by, no traffic lights, and no pedestrian crossing, so there is a risk of getting hit by one of the motorcycles. Okay, let’s identify the three options for managing a risk.
First, let’s run the risk. We cross, and we will see what happens. Maybe we will get hit by a motorcycle; perhaps we won’t. Our approach is to run the risk.
The second option is to avoid the risk. A pedestrian bridge is 150 meters away, and we will cross through this bridge. We avoid the risk of being hit by a motorcycle.
The third option is to mitigate the risk of being hit by a motorcycle. We will reduce the likelihood and the impact by walking slowly across the street so that any motorcycle coming our way sees us clearly and has time to decelerate and change course.
It’s an elementary example (and yes, i can tell you that walking slowly definitely works, although it may sound counterintuitive), but it should help you understand your options each time you have a risk. Each time you have a risk, ask yourself what is the equivalent of crossing the road (accept the risk). What is the equivalent of taking the pedestrian bridge (avoid the risk)? What is the equivalent of slowly crossing the road (minimizing the likelihood and impact of the risk)?
Be careful. Don’t call something that is an issue a risk. If a motorcycle has hit both of your legs, it is now an issue. It is no longer a risk. We tell you this because many People will incorrectly call something that is an issue a risk. Once the motorcycle has hit you, it is no longer a risk. It is an issue you must deal with. Separate both things (risk of something happening and issue related to something that has happened) in your head.
What should i do?
You usually know the answer to this question. But it is just uneasy to say it out loud and even more uneasy to act on what you should do. Don’t forget that Peoplelyzer is here to support you, so the action bit will likely be easier than you think.
What do you think you should do?
We are not even talking about the “can” part. Forget the “can” part for a moment. We will come to it afterward. Right now, we are talking about the “should” part. The part that is coming from your intuition, what your gut, what your inner core is telling you.
The person who can help you answer this question is you and who you fundamentally are and aren’t.
Let’s use an imaginary situation. You walk on the seaside, and a kid falls before you. What do you instinctively do? Imagine that your instinctive behavior is to check on him right away. Your actions align with who you are, and you may care and empathize with this kid on the ground. It’s a simple example to help you understand what you should do. The current situation may appear way more complicated than a kid falling on the ground, but expressing your “should” is the same. I’m asking you once more: what do you think you should do? Feel free to write it down, even if these are just words. It’s a starting point.
Social constraints
Often, you know what you should do, but something comes your way: social constraints, norms, culture. All the weight of what you think others may think of you if you do this or that. It’s no surprise at all that culture comes into play. But remember that a few folks have ensured you do not deviate from norms. Rest assured, an increasing number of People are shifting from acting like they have been told they should act or live their lives. Take the example of a kid in a classroom. The teacher tells the kids in the class that a man can get pregnant. Suddenly, Mark shouts, “Miss, that’s not true!”. It took a split second for Mark to define what he should do, and obviously, Mark did not care much about social pressure (what other kids in the class may think, the social norm of not contradicting what the teacher says, etc.).
If you feel that social constraints prevent you from going for what you should do, you must capture them. Write them down on a paper. I can tell you, some People will never go for what they should do. You hear me well, never. Why? Because of social constraints. This stuff can be extremely powerful to the point where children will not dare to tell their parents they do not want to be a lawyer, a doctor, or a scientist but will keep studying for decades to please their parents and stay within the norm. These norms are destructive because they prevent you from doing what you SHOULD do in life. Your “should” is correct. This is what you need to do to move forward and thrive.
Please, let me ask you once more: what should you do?
What can i do?
“Can” is the capability to do something. It refers to physical and mental capabilities.
If you are the type of person who underestimates what you can do, you should read this page first: realize your self-worth.
Your physical and mental capabilities enable you to do several things. It’s essential you know them well because they can be very helpful for the action bit. Let’s imagine that you are incredibly good at researching information. Well, don’t you think that this can be pretty useful? Could you start investigating events and searching for specific information? Or imagine a lady who is good at writing. What would you advise her to do? Could she start writing articles?
Sometimes, you will need external support. Feel free to ask folks who know you well what you are good at. If they know you well, they likely observe you and have an opinion on what you are great at.
Please give me suggestions
If you are unsure what to do, i suggest you open this page, “Navigating Peoplelyzer’s content.” It contains an overview of options you may have.
It’s like going to a restaurant and deciding what to pick. You are in charge. It’s you who will determine what you should and can do. Make a decision and go for it. You will quickly realize if it’s working or not for you. If it doesn’t work, understand why and adjust your plan.
Can you please help me?
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